22/09/2022
The title is "Searching for a man to sleep with" which from the sounds of it would seem to be an easy thing.
Now it actually is easy for nearly any female to pick up someone in say, a bar. But doing that entails risks, and when dealing with your own wife the situation becomes complicated.
For one thing, sex between your own wife and a stranger carries societal concerns, a possible scandal and embarrassment which quickly is a turn off. Even simple flashing carries the same consequences, which is why those that do often go to lengths to make things appear at the minimum, accidental.
I remember when one young woman I was dating and I decided to experiment, the idea excited us both, so we were looking for a couple.
That is even more difficult, since so many women hide their true desires in reserve, and often the truth, women LIKE sex too, comes out only when they feel safe, and no one else will ever know.
Have any of you men ever wondered about how many partners someone else's wife has had? Of even wondered about someone's husband?
The real truth is, a very large percentage of the men, and surprise! Nearly the same number of females will admit privately to having experiences, even when married. The number is likely higher for women, since they often lie even anonymously, while men tend to exaggerate.
I remember when my own experiences with one young woman was mostly flashing, things like quick peeks no one was "supposed" to see, like down blouse shots and upskirt glimpses getting off a chair or couch.
Then one day a couple, him older, her much younger invited us over and the games began, we all ended up naked and did some petting with each other's mates. That was fun, but my gal was a horny little thing and wanted to try swapping.
We found that very difficult to accomplish, can you imagine the reaction of many if you just blatantly asked them if they wanted to swap?
We only tried that once, got turned down although I did notice the interest in the eyes of the other wife. The guy actually became outraged at our daring to suggest such a thing, when so many times I saw him flirting and appearing to hit on other women.
When it finally did happen, it began as a couple, and she was the one that threw a fit, jealous of her husband. Actually, also a fairly common scenario, which we solved by having them over for dinner one day, and while the women we distracted in the kitchen and we were outside having beers in the back yard, I suggested the only way this would work was if he came over some evening by himself. His eyes lit up and he grinned, "Saturday?" he asked. I just nodded.
I told my girl friend what I had set up, she was happy at the idea and made sure she was showered and trimmed when he arrived.
The first experience was not all that great, he turned out to be a bit on the quick side, probably the understatement of the century, but he did make up for it by being very good at oral.
During the time we were together, we found about a dozen interested, just one couple. But in time, we drifted apart, she had a powerful ability to exceed our financial budget, it took me another 4 years to clear up the credit cards.
But, it was quite an interesting time.