11/12/2006
My BF and I have been playing with girls for a couple of years now. Just some kissing and the occasional oral. We didn't have sex with anyone else and didn't want to full swap. About a month ago, we went to a swing club and met a couple we both really liked. He had sex with the girl, but I wasn't ready to have sex with another guy. I really enjoyed watching him with her and we got together with them again and we had a great time. This time I was more comfortable and actually had sex with the other guy. Again, we had a great time. I just got to feeling as the night progressed that my BF was paying more attention to her than me. He seemed to be all over her and not with me very much. Although I thouroughly enjoyed myself, I felt a little disappointed because I thought this was an experience that we would have together and enjoy TOGETHER. I am sure having sex with another woman is exhilirating and all, but isn't this supposed to be about both of us. Has anyone had this experience?
Recently, my BF and I went to a regular club and while I was walking around, my BF met a single girl. I kept my distance for a bit and he eventually brought her over and introduced us. She was a bit suprised to find out he had a girlfriend but warmed up to the idea immediately. Please note, he wasn't trying to pick up girls behind my back. We have talked about this before and if some girl flirts with him while he's walking around it's allright to go talk to her as long as he brings her over to introduce us. So, anyways one thing led to another and we ended up bringing her home. We had a pretty good time, but this girl didn't seem much into me and couldn't stop going on and on and on and on about how gorgeous my BF was, how good he was how big he was, etc. I can handle a little of that but this was sickening. All night this went on, literally!! That put me off, then while I was on the computer reading e-mail she starts messing around with him again. One of our rules is nothing happens unless the other is present. I couldn't be mad at her, because we didn't tell her about our rules (which we did before this happened again) That was it and I got really mad. He took her home and we talked for days and eventually got all rules re-defined. Mainly, that no rule has any room for interpretation. A rule is a rule!! We got together with her again, we had a blast. I really enjoy watching him with another woman. However, I continue to get the feeling that it isn't a threesome that she wants. So, I decide to discuss it with her and she insists that she respects our relationship and doesn't want to do anything to jeapordize that. Even though my boyfriend is way her type and she does want to be in a relationship. She isn't pursuing him. Yet, after we have told her on numerous occastions that there are no secrets. If you have something to say, you say it in front of both of us. she keeps having conversations with my BF while I am in the bathroom or doing something else. Once telling him I made her feel uncomfortable. That made me feel like she was making me look like the bad guy. Then she continues with the praise, you are so hot, you are so big, you are so good in bed. Then she asks my BF if she can see pictures of him when he was a child. Never once took an intrest in my pictures, just his. We went out to dinner on Sunday and my BF and I start telling her how happy we are, how we met, how incredible our life has been and on the way back to our house she starts crying in the back seat and claims she remembered a bad memory. My first thought was she is in love with him and didn't like hearing how happy we are together. I talked to my BF about all this, and pointed out what I thought was the obvious. He said that he truly did not read into these things too much, but now that I told him about all these things he too thinks there is something going on. She promised she was not trying to pursue him, but I really don't believe that. My BF and I have agreed that we are not going to see her anymore. I guess what I am asking is, am I being overly jealous or possesive and reading into these situations too much or does it sound like this woman is trying to pursue my BF. - Any suggestions?
Poster:
Joanne