10/06/2011
Hi everyone,
My lovely wife and I have been married for a couple of years now and are very happy. Before we got engaged, we talked a bit about our sexual pasts and she told me that I would be the fourth man that she has ever been with. She even made me wait until our wedding night until we had sex for the first time (it was worth the wait)! Since I'm 6 years older, the idea that I was a bit more experienced than my wife sort of grew on me.
The other night, my wife had a “girls night out” for drinks and dinner with several of her past college roommates. I know these girls to be rather conservative business women now, but that when these girls get together for drinks, the talk quickly turns to their sexual exploits of their college years.
Well anyway, the next day I found a post-it note under my wife's purse while organizing the kitchen counter. Written on it in my wife's hand writing was a list of 18 names of various men. Three of the names matched the names of the men that my wife had told me she had slept with before we meet. I know that I can be a bit naive at times, but I have to assume that she slept with the other 15 men as well, and that she wrote this list with her college friends while reminiscing.
I have quickly gotten over the initial surprise and I have no problem that my wife has had a “healthy” sexual past. It certainly makes sense since she is very attractive and I know that the men at her work pay her much attention and that she is in turn flirtatious. In actuality, she is the one who can become quite jealous at times. I have been hoping to become much more daring and experimental with her in our sex life. It has been very good so far, but I have always had the feeling that she has been holding back with me because she has to pretend that she is a good conservative business woman and wife. I just don't understand why she didn't think that she could be honest with me about this as I am not a prude and I have never put out any negative vibes about anything sexual. Maybe she meant for me to find the note? Perhaps she has shared her charms with one or more of these men during our relationship? I just don't know. I would really like some feedback from the ladies or couples who might be able to help me discuss this with her in the best way. I have yet to mention it to her as I don't want to have a confrontation and make her defensive. But I would like to take this as an opportunity to both deepen our love relationship and to broaden our sex life. I would love to someday post some nude pictures of her/us on this site as a start to break from our current boundaries. Thanks in advance to all who respond.