08/12/2025
When I turned 50, I had a medical condition which precluded me from having sex for at least 6 months. I could still go to work (a desk job), but this time period My wife was a trooper and supported me, but because she was much younger than me, I knew this was taking a toll on her. We discussed this a lot and my solution was for her to have a “hall pass”. Of course, that meant that she could have sex with someone, as long as the encounter met certain conditions (confirmed sexual health, one-night stand, etc.), including giving me the graphic details of her night of pleasure.
She pushed back for the longest time, saying that she could take care of herself when needed, but I knew that true sex was her desire.
Things went along well for a while, We had some home remodeling to do, including some small and large projects. Some she could do alone. Others, required getting quotes from contractors. One of the big projects was to remove the old floor covering (vinyl) and replace with carpeting. She had about 5 different quotes (which she discussed with me), ranging from low to high, but she kept shopping.
My boss asked me to attend a day conference in a city about 3 hours away. My wife said she would be ok by herself and I made plans to stay overnight, returning the next morning.
The conference went well and after dinner, I returned to my hotel room. I called home, but there was no answer. I called her cell a couple of times, but same. She was probably busy or maybe went to the store, out with friends, whatever. I watched some TV, took a sleeping pill and went to bed.
Around 2 am, my phone rang and it was my wife. I was kind of dopey when I answered, waking from a deep sleep. Her voice seemed a little distant and she wasn’t making a lot of sense. She had negotiated some kind of deal with an installer.
Something about getting carpeting laid in the hall. (I didn’t think the hall needed carpeting, but as long as she was good with it, ok). I asked if she was ok and she said something about getting it done twice, but she was very satisfied. I was still dozy, so I said I was happy with it and told her to tell me all about it when I got home later that day.
I got home around noon. She was sitting on the sofa, with tears in her eyes. I didn’t understand and wanted to comfort her. I sat with her and asked her what was wrong. She burst into tears, saying that she felt guilty and that she was so sorry. I didn’t understand and asked her to explain.
I guess I completely misunderstood. She had made an appointment with one of the contractors to discuss his quote and asked if there was anything she could do to lower the cost. One thing led to another. They ended up in the shower, then got laid. She said the sex was so good that she sucked him hard for a second round. She came multiple times and was so satisfied. But after he left, guilt took over.
That’s when she called me. I was no longer confused, but struggled for something to say. I had offered her a “hall pass”. I did want her to tell me all the details. What could I say. Then I asked, “how much did he take off for the carpet job”?
She wouldn’t talk to me for a whole day…