Hi Webmaster,
I know this isn't really a dare but we thought that it would benefit your community of readers.
This past weekend we had our first encounter with another man. It did not turn out as we had hoped and I wanted to share a little of what happened so that other newbies might benefit from our experience since many on this site are thinking about thressomes and casual sex situations.
We had been contacted through our ad by a single male. He seemed nice enough and we proceeded cautiously. Both of us chatted with him, online and on the phone. He was soft-spoken, funny and talked a lot about how much he enjoyed pleasing women. We discussed a few of our desires and limits and no 'red flags' popped up during those conversations. We made plans to meet for dinner and possibly more.
Our first mistake (in retrospect) was to allow him to get a room at a motel before we had dinner. Since the place we had planned to meet was closed, and the motel was on the way to the new restaurant we had selected, so we went along with that and even took our things up to the room.
Dinner went well and we decided to go back to the room, as there was nothing about him that gave us any concerns. We both had been nervous about meeting him and because that part was over we began to relax a little and drop our guard (mistake #2).
When we returned to the room, things began to get a little weird. Looking back now it is easy to see that things were getting out of hand, but at the time, with all of this being new to us, we didn't fully realize it. As soon as we entered the room, he began to disrobe. This didn't strike us a too strange; after all we had come there to have sex with him. Then he began to kiss and paw J in a manner that I thought was a little rough, but she seemed to be responding positively to the attention.
This is where mistake #3, perhaps the biggest error, came into play. We had not set up a signal to use between each other if one of us felt uncomfortable or discussed what we would do if that happened. He continued to be fairly rough with her and I did have to caution him about a few things he was attempting to do. She wasn't really enjoying much of it, as I found out later.
In short, as we can see now with 20-20 hindsight, he treated her like a piece of meat, pretty much ignored me and took his own pleasure first. J quickly became too sore to continue and at the first opportunity we said our goodbyes. It was all very bewildering and it was only the next day we that we fully realized what had happened.
I will let J speak about how she feels, but I feel used and angry. I am angry at him for what he did and at myself for not stopping what was happening and for not having a plan to deal with it. I'm not sure if he deliberately took advantage of inexperienced people or was just an incredibly lousy lover.
J - We're pulling back a bit, as you might imagine, and reassessing ourselves. We're not giving up, because we know from all of you wonderful people here at truthordarepics that have posted threesome dares and stories that it's not always going to be that way. But, we are re-examining everything, trying to determine where things went wrong and what to do differently next time. This experience shows us how important it is for a couple to have a strong relationship. This kind of event could tear apart a couple very easily. We are fine, each of us blaming ourselves, but not each other. It is also good that we have talked at length about sex, what our limits are and what we want to get out of it (although obviously we have more talking to do about some things!)
We posted this for several reasons: first, as a cautionary tale for others, second as a way for me to release my feelings, and third, to have something positive come out of it. By daring to post my pictures I feel like my husband and I can both enjoy this and imagine what the response is from you wonderful readers. It IS a turn on and very exciting to say the least. We need a positive experience like this to build on for the next encounter we have. When we don't know but hopefully soon, when we are ready.
A big thanks to you Webmaster for your advice and I hope you enjoy the pictures.
- J & B
